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How to take a good spicy pic

Written on February 1, 2022. Posted in Lifestyle.

My first time sending a nude was in eighth grade. I was wearing a bright pink Nike full coverage sports bra. I held up my iPad and took a Snapchat of myself making a duck face. I sent scandalous pictures far before I understood the risk factors, knew what I wanted to send, or how to communicate and...

Trying to lose my virginity shattered my views on sex

Written on January 21, 2022. Posted in Lifestyle, Postscript.

This article discusses sexual assault and may be triggering for some readers. The Kingston Sexual Assault Centre’s 24-hour crisis and support phone line can be reached at 613-544-6424 / 1-800-544-6424. The Centre’s online chat feature can be reached here. The night I lost my virginity, things didn’t...

The Tricolour Sex Column: Virginity

Written on January 29, 2021. Posted in Columns.

This article discusses sexual assault and may be triggering for some readers. The opinions expressed in this piece reflect only the experiences of a brown Queer Muslim cisgendered woman whose upbringing included poor access to sex education and reproductive healthcare. No article, author, or publication...

Sexual liberation while racialized

Written on January 22, 2021. Posted in Features.

This piece uses “Queer and Trans Black, Indigenous, and People of Colour (QTBIPOC)” to refer to the experiences of Queer racialized students. We acknowledge this term is not universal. Sexual liberation has always been core to the feminist movement. In North America, for a long time, that has looked...

Tricolour Sex Column: The porn gap

Written on November 20, 2020. Posted in Columns.

This article discusses sexual assault and may be triggering for some readers. The opinions expressed in this piece reflect only the experiences of a brown Queer Muslim woman whose upbringing included poor access to sex education and reproductive healthcare. No article, author, or publication can accurately...

How to improve your bad hookups

Written on January 31, 2020. Posted in Lifestyle, Student Life.

Recently, I wrote a Journal feature about the orgasm gap: the proven phenomenon where women are less likely to orgasm during partnered sexual activity than men, especially during sex with men. The purpose of my article was to highlight the sexual experiences of female-identified Queen’s students....

Tri-colour Sex Diary: Spicing up a long-term relationship gone wrong

Written on October 4, 2018. Posted in Columns.

Long term relationships can be hard. It’s difficult to constantly keep things interesting while balancing school, a job and a million other responsibilities. If I’ve learned anything in my 20 years of life, it’s spicing things up in the bedroom is essential to keeping a relationship alive. I...

The relationship between sex and pop culture

Written on April 5, 2018. Posted in Lifestyle.

Through Trump’s presidency, we’re truly learning about the way sex interacts with politics. Thanks to Anderson Cooper’s two interviews with different women earlier this month, we know way more about Trump’s sex life than we probably ever wanted to. But the reason why it’s suddenly appropriate to discuss...

Having sex is not equivalent to moral or physical loss

Written on November 10, 2017. Posted in Editorials.

“Have you lost your virginity?” This question has been asked a thousand times and it comes with incredibly damaging connotations. The idea of “losing your virginity” has become normalized, but the use of this phrase perpetuates a plethora of problematic ideas. Whether it’s their purity, pride,...

Sex in the Limestone City: Canada's approach to sex education needs improvement

Written on October 3, 2017. Posted in Lifestyle.

Growing up, I was raised in a Catholic home and attended Catholic school for both my elementary and high school careers. Overall, I’d say I received an excellent education, allowing me to gain entry into Queen’s and excel in my program. However, there was one major gap in knowledge that attending...

The psychology of 'friends with benefits'

Written on September 26, 2017. Posted in Lifestyle.

The concept of “friends with benefits” – the relationship of our generation – is something we see in movies, TV shows and even in our friend groups. But is this set-up actually as beneficial as the name implies? What’s the driving force behind this common partnership? According to New...

Sex in the Limestone City: A trip to the SHRC

Written on September 19, 2017. Posted in Lifestyle.

During my first week at Queen’s, my residence floor had the pleasure of being visited by representatives from the Sexual Health Resource Center (SHRC). These “sexperts” introduced us to the amazing resource students have right at our fingertips that provide sex-related services from safe sex...

S&M: First time fears

Written on January 20, 2017. Posted in Lifestyle.

I’m a fourth year girl and am still a virgin. I know it’s not a huge deal as I’ve never had a long-term relationship, but I’m tired of being embarrassed by it and am just ready to get it over with. However, I’m scared if I tell a one night stand they’ll be totally freaked out and leave — but I’ve...

Male birth control coverage in the media misses the mark

Written on November 4, 2016. Posted in Opinions.

If you want to believe recent headlines, cargo shorts will be the closest thing to male birth control for now. News outlets like USA Today and Buzzfeed recently suggested a promising new male birth control method was curtailed because participants couldn’t deal with common side effects. Besides...

Ask S&M: Nervous Novice

Written on October 14, 2016. Posted in Lifestyle.

“Dear S&M, I started seeing a new girl who I really like. She’s cool, funny and so hot and for some reason, she likes me! The only problem is that I’m not necessarily the coolest guy, and because of that I don’t really have a wide breadth of experience with women. I’m pretty new to the… bedroom…...

Introducing S&M

Written on September 30, 2016. Posted in Lifestyle.

Hi there, Journal readers! Our names are S and M, and together, we are yours truly: S&M. Convenient? We know. Clever? Maybe. We know what you’re thinking: why is there a sexual innuendo as a newspaper headline? Allow us to shed a little light for you. S and M met on a fateful first day of university,...

Persevering through vaginismus

Written on June 27, 2016. Posted in Lifestyle.

This past spring, I was diagnosed with a condition I wasn’t aware existed: vaginismus. The six months that followed my diagnosis were filled with confusion, distress, tears and pain. I had been trying to have sex with my partner for several months, but every time we tried it was like he hit an impenetrable...

Best of Kingston

Written on March 31, 2016. Posted in Lifestyle.

The results are in! Over the past week, Lifestyle polled students on their favourite places on and off campus. We’re talking best place to grab drinks, take your parents, and even poop (that doesn’t include your home). To follow are the results for the 2015-16 survey. Graphic by Ashley Quan

Let’s talk about sex

Written on February 26, 2016. Posted in Lifestyle.

A week and a half ago, I went to hear a panel of guys talk about intimacy, sex and relationships. I had no idea what to expect. Sex isn’t the simplest of topics to discuss — no matter your gender, sexual orientation or preference. But for the panel of guys who openly discussed their views on relationships...

Is everyone but me having vaginal orgasms?

Written on January 22, 2016. Posted in Lifestyle.

Vaginal orgasms have been sought out since the dawn of penetration. The vaginal or “G-spot” orgasm is a climax that’s brought on by exclusively internal vaginal stimulation. Many people have never experienced vaginal orgasms, but those who can achieve “hands-free” orgasms may be perceived as experienced,...

I think I'm pregnant

Written on December 3, 2015. Posted in Lifestyle.

Missed your period? Have nausea, swollen breasts or fatigue? These are just some of the symptoms that can lead someone to believe they’re pregnant. First things first, if you haven’t already, take a pregnancy test — available at the SHRC, any pharmacy or at a clinic — to confirm. There are many...

Ménage à what?

Written on October 20, 2015. Posted in Lifestyle.

Q: I have always fantasized about having a threesome…how can I talk to my partner about trying? Explain why It’s important to first communicate with your partner why you want to try a threesome. Is it because you want to voyeuristically appreciate someone else ravishing your partner? Do you want to...

The Netflix & chill phenomenon

Written on October 16, 2015. Posted in Lifestyle.

Back in 2012, when “Gangnam Style” was dominating the Top 40 charts and I was beginning my first year at Queen’s, Netflix became a way for me to escape the dreariness of my day-to-day school life and avoid yet another night out at Stages. For me, there was nothing quainter than kicking back on a...

Good vibrations

Written on September 22, 2015. Posted in Lifestyle.

So you’re thinking about getting a vibrator? A vibrator is an excellent way to explore your body and get in touch with your sexuality. But before you dive in, there are some things to think about: your preferred size, discretion level, toy texture, vibration pattern and use. Types Vibrators come in...

Hot and heavy on campus

Written on April 2, 2015. Posted in Lifestyle.

There’s something taboo about having sex on campus. In an environment that’s meant to be studious and serious, the risk of getting caught only adds to the thrill. I’m perhaps the least qualified person to write this article. I’ve never hooked up on campus, in any definition of that ambiguous phrase....

Video Talking Head: How was your sexual education in school?

Written on November 7, 2014. Posted in Opinions.

Virgin-Shaming

Written on February 4, 2014. Posted in Editorials.

We’ve all seen one of those movies. That dorky, young man comes on screen, stutters around the girls and is eventually is made a “real” man by a woman’s touch. The virgin: he’s just the latest in a long line of Hollywood stock characters. We pity him due to his inexperience and cheer him on when he’s...

QJSex: Kink events

Written on January 22, 2014. Posted in Lifestyle.

So you’re going to a kink event – or maybe you’re thinking about it. Maybe you want to get a little more information on what it actually means. In the future, I’ll go over some basic points on what to expect and how to behave at kink events. This first entry is on public events. How can I tell if...

Screening for love

Written on January 21, 2014. Posted in Lifestyle.

A computer screen or a phone doesn’t seem like a normal place for a relationship to begin. Yet, that’s where society seems to be headed. With online dating sites such as eHarmony and apps like Tinder, relationships — and, to an equal extent, casual hook-ups — are evolving into something increasingly...

Let’s talk about sex

Written on January 17, 2014. Posted in Lifestyle.

I’m a 20-something living with an invisability and yes, I have sex. Arthritis is commonly viewed as an “old person’s disease”, but that’s not the case for many young people out there. While it affects every aspect of your day-to-day life, sex oftentimes gets left out of the discussion. Sex with an...

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